The focus of this episode is about personal fulfillment, and how it isn't handed to you on a silver platter. Instead, it's the hard-earned reward of action towards your goals. And when those goals seem out of reach? We stress the importance of reassessing, adjusting, and continuing to strive. We believe that the path to true fulfillment involves taking action, so join us on this journey of self-discovery and personal growth.
The focus of this episode is about personal fulfillment, and how it isn't handed to you on a silver platter. Instead, it's the hard-earned reward of action towards your goals. And when those goals seem out of reach? We stress the importance of reassessing, adjusting, and continuing to strive. We believe that the path to true fulfillment involves taking action, so join us on this journey of self-discovery and personal growth.
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This is on Lacing Leadership and I'm your host, travis Moss, and we're gonna talk about moving the goalpost today. And yes, I am being very rude, I'm interrupting May and Emmy as they're doing the team interview on Surrounded by Idiots and I think they're just crushing it. It is inspiring, it's touching. We're talking about Surrounded by Idiots and how the lessons from that we can implement into our daily lives and how it changes not just us but the people around us. I think they're the way that they're opening up and sharing life with us, and the impact from things like Surrounded by Idiots is I found it to be extremely powerful. But we did have schedules in there and actually Quote Day and that's what we're gonna get after today. But before we do that, we're gonna do a little bit of housekeeping because I wanna tie a couple things together for you here.
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So our original podcast, where Unleashing even came out of, was a podcast called Ditch the Suites. It's still a podcast that we're doing today. It's myself and a co-host, steve Campbell. That's where all this started. It came after COVID. It's all about getting more out of your money and your life and it was really focused on sharing with you what you're seeing, what you're hearing about the financial world and breaking down basically some of the mysticism about it, basically getting the industry jargon out of it and help you understand the perspective from the people who are trying to sell you some of this stuff and things that you can better do to take control of your finances and your life and hopefully reduce stress and some of the challenges that you have in relationships and those types of things. So that's Ditch the Suites. That is what has created everything that we're working on right now in this realm. From Ditch the Suites. We then created NQRmediacom or NotQuiteWriteMediacom, because do you feel like you're missing something? Do you feel like people are selling you stuff but they're not necessarily giving you all the information? That's NQRmediacom, notquitewritemedia. It's a platform to produce shows like Ditch the Suites, like Unleashing, that talk to you just bluntly about the facts and the circumstances and what you need to know, not deciding for you how to spin it and how to sell you stuff and all that kind of thing. It's really just a no holds bar down to earth, a little bit edgy perspective on very, very important topics to help you get more out of your life, your relationships, reduce stress, work your finances better, which is a big part of all that. So we've got Ditch the Suites. We create NQR. Nqr now produces Ditch the Suites and from Ditch the Suites spawn to additional shows. My show Unleashing this is what you're listening to right now. And then Steve Campbell. He's the co-host from Ditch the Suites, his show.
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One Big Thing and the reason why I bring this up is because on November 11th he on his show interviewed JC Glick and I believe I'm saying it correctly, jc Glick. Let me see if it's JC Glick or CJ Glick. I get the two confused just slightly. And that's Steve's show right there in the background, jc Glick Okay, I get to get it right.
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Jc Glick is another military guy, very inspirational. Steve gets into some really personal stuff on his show and what he's trying to do is show you that you know the stuff you're going through. You're not by yourself. There's other very, very successful people that are going through the same stuff, sometimes even darker days you can jump over to show. The reason why I'm tying them together is because we just did a couple of episodes ago and on our last quote day we did a quote from David Goggins, who's also a military guy, and we did team of teams from general McChrystal, also military guy, and I follow will the jackal podcast, also military guys. So some of these guys have some insights and not that we want to just stick around with military guys, but if you've been digging that vibe a little bit, check that out. There's. There's a humility component, both in a David Goggins book and and JC's Interview with Steve. That I think is very inspirational, very powerful.
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So we've got those two shows, three shows really ditches suits, the show on leisheen, steve show, one big thing. And then we've also got another show, cutthroat college. And Cutthroat college is probably the thing that I am most proud of being a part of, because I think it will be the most impactful of all of our shows. Because I Think pretty much everybody is struggling like with this right now, especially parents and and teenage kids Getting prepared for that life decision, that decision that's not gonna change just your life but but everybody in your family's life. That college decision, that higher education to skip decision should. Which college should I go? Should I go private? Should I go public? Which type of degree should I get? Should I go into the crate? Should I skip school all together? Should I? I want to go play sports? What's my fault?
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My backup plan, kayla record, hector Hector Lopez, the co-host for cutthroat college, do a fascinating job of parsing it, that discussion, down and making it digestible, giving you ways to talk about it and things to think about and help you understand the big business of higher education. And and before you make a big business decision, you got to get some business acumen or you're just gonna get eaten by the sharks and that's what they're trying to do. They're trying to help there. So if you know anybody who's Getting close to college age, that probably sophomore, junior In high school is the best time to start listening to that. Parents, maybe even when the kids are freshmen. I mean, start now, because they're. They're gonna, you know, really walk you through the whole gamut of higher education and making that business decision with your, with your kids, or, if your kids making it, you know, for yourself and not letting your Friends dictate to you what you do, but actually making a good decision for yourself. So, anyway, you could check all that out.
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You go to NQR media comm that's our website and on there are links to all those shows. So even if you don't remember the shows, if you don't remember how to get to the website. You just remember that we got a college show. Go to our website, check it out, click on it. There's also contact us stuff there. There's additional resources that are being built out for you and it's all free. It's all for you. We decided we originally started on leaching we're gonna charge us a subscription for it. We decided not to. We threw it out there for free. Now, in the last I don't know two weeks, we've had a 400% increase in listeners, and that's what it's all about, um, so we're very excited to bring that to you. Back to our quote today. Our quote today.
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It takes half your life before you discover life is a do-it-yourself project, and that's by Napoleon Hill. We are pretty dumb. I said dumb, um. I know sometimes I talk fast and I slur the end of my words, but we are pretty dumb. We keep waiting for someone to come along and give us our big break. We keep needing others to tell us we're doing a good job. It happens to me too. Sometimes it's just like I need somebody to pet me on the back and say we're on the right track. That I don't good, you know.
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We keep believing that someone cares if we individually change the world. One day we wake up and, yeah, people are willing to benefit from it. But do they really care that? You're the one that did it? For the vast majority of us, there's no easy street on this. There's no shortcut, there's no savior. Nobody's coming looking for us saying, ah here the one, here you go. Sorry, but like I don't think anybody really cares individually if we're the ones that change the world or we're the ones that change our own world, that comes and lives within ourselves.
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It's just a realization, right? This sounds lonely, it sounds miserable, but it's not. It's a realization that you are the person you've always been waiting for. You are the one who's going to complete you, not somebody else, not some fake Facebook person. They call them friends on Facebook. I would challenge you that most of the people on Facebook are not your friend. It's not some Twitter bot or X bot, whatever they're called. Now you know liking your tweet and retweeting it. You're never going to meet most of those people. You are the person who cares if it is you that changes the world. You, only you, not your friends and family. They love you anyway. In fact, they may not understand why you find this. You have this need for self-improvement or this need to fix things around you right. That might frustrate the hell out of them. They love you anyway.
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You are the only one who gives you permission to accept the job that you did is the best that you could do. No one else actually knows if you cut corners or if you cheated. I'm not talking about the obvious. I cut a you know, a step out, or something like that. What I'm talking about is in your heart, of hearts. You are the only one who knows if you didn't try as hard as you could have. You know it's like building something that looks beautiful and so you get an award. You built something beautiful. Here's an award, and then five years later it falls apart. And now everybody's looking for somebody to sue. And why did it fall apart? Because you cut corners. You knew better and you still did it. Because you were looking for the short term. You were looking for the recognition. You were looking for the attention instead of taking pride in what you were building.
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If you want fulfillment in life, you need to make fulfillment happen, because it's personal. What works for me may not work for you. That's why you can't wait for anybody. You need to define what it means to you, what fulfillment means to you and let me give you a hint it has nothing to do with money. You need to figure out what you would have to do to realistically achieve it.
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If you pick something and say, this is fulfillment for me and it's something that is truly honestly, 100%, you could never achieve it. And we do this a lot of times with sports or athletics or something like that. That's just beyond something that we can physically do. There's physical limitations and there are limitations for people. Physically, you might have to move the goalpost a little bit right, but for the most part, you're going to establish for yourself what fulfillment looks like, and if you don't know what that looks like, you need to spend some time on you and thinking about what that would look like, and then you have to think about what do I need to do to achieve that?
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So this is different than just calling out into the universe and saying this is what I want. This is you telling the universe is what I'm going to do to get what I want. Then you get to work on it. So you don't just say this is what I want, this is what I'm going to do Now. You make it a virtue? You go, do it Right. Remember. You could say you value it, all you want, but do you actually do anything about it? You don't wait for somebody to come give it to you. You don't wait for it to fall in your lap. That's not how that works.
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The reason why it works when people write something down or call it out into the universe every day or write it on their mirrors every time they look at it they see it is because it changes their mind in the way that they approach life. They start to do things. That allows them that success. They start to open up a little bit. They start to take chances they otherwise wouldn't have, because they're moving towards the thing that they want and they have faith in that. They create the faith in that themselves. That's why that works. It's a little bit of that effort part that we talked about. You got to have some effort right, but it's not effort that does it. It's effort plus a clear mind on what actually would fulfill you.
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You are not a beggar. Handouts never fulfill anybody. I don't even think handouts fulfill the people who give them. Yes, for most of us, we're going to give fulfillment by helping somebody, but I would say, from somebody who helps everybody or tries to help everybody as much as I can. I give fulfillment when I help somebody who tries to help themselves and they take something from me, they receive it and that makes them that much better and they amplify it.
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I don't give fulfillment when somebody's just got their hand out and, no matter how much I give them, they want more. That doesn't give me fulfillment. What gives me fulfillment is when I give something to somebody and they do stuff with it that I couldn't even imagine. That's fulfillment. That's for me. You got to find your own fulfillment. Maybe it's that too. You got to find it, though you are only fulfilled when you are doing something, though that's the key. You do something to find fulfillment. So you might ask but what if fulfillment is out of my reach? What if I did define fulfillment in a way that I cannot get there? Well, guess what you set that you did it. So move the goalpost.